So, the last principle we're going to talk about today is build lasting confidence. Build lasting confidence. And this is all about being present. It's about being present. Do not throw away your confidence, it will be richly rewarded. Guys, when I was, oh, gosh, about 3, 4 years ago, I had my 30-year class reunion. High School class reunion. Had my 30-year high school class reunion. Class of 1985. That's me up there in the corner. And, oh, my gosh, I got to admit. I had a whole lot of anxiety about going back for my class reunion. It was, as you can see, a very small class, and outside of a few connections on Facebook, we hadn't really stayed connected, so there was some angst. That was just some anxiety and so I'm getting dressed. I'm in the mirror and I'm getting dressed and I'm thinking back to that 18-year-old. I'm thinking, "Wow. Literally, every dream that I ever had as an 18-year-old, I had accomplished." And I was just like, "Wow," and I'm thinking back, and I'm thinking to al...
l the times that life had kicked me in the face and I got back up, and I'm just like, "Wow." I'm feeling good. I'm hearing a little Jay-Z in my head, "Allow me to re-introduce myself," right? Let me tell you all, there's a freedom you get dancing naked in the mirror, right? So I'm thinking and I'm excited, "Okay, okay," and I started thinking about that 18-year-old and how much I knew what I wanted. I knew what I was doing. I'm thinking about now what I'm doing, 40-something years old, and realizing...that 18-year-old and this 40-something year old, there was a disconnect here. I had really gotten disconnected from who I was and I started really unpacking that. This woman here was more lost than that kid in the picture before. How could that be? And I started unpacking this more and more and I started unpacking. How could this woman be so disconnected from who she was? And I realized as I unpacked it, I realized that I wasn't confident. Somewhere on this journey, I had lost my confidence. Drive, now, drive, that's what got this woman here. Somewhere confidence had lost its place and I realized that drive is what had pushed me to succeed, but confidence, that's confidence, confidence is who you're supposed to be when you get there, and that wasn't my truth. And I kept unpacking this and unpacking this, started asking other people, "Are you driven or are you confident?" And they would go, "Okay, wow. Wow. To be honest, I've got drive but I don't think I'm that confident." And I realized that it wasn't just me. I realized that drive, drive is that protective strength. Drive and drive and you go and you go. Confidence is our vulnerable strength and I realized that there can be a major gap between drive and confidence. And I started asking this question and talking to other people, and I realized that some of the most accomplished people I knew had no confidence. I realized that we could get up every day and we could accomplish some amazing things, but we don't have confidence. Drive is that thing that keeps you going, that you could do. Confidence is when you're sitting still by yourself when there's no one there. And I would continue to unpack this and I realized that if I was genuinely going to experience exponential living that I had to not only commit to drive and confidence getting back together, but they had to stay together. I could no longer live with drive and confidence not aligned. They're not the same thing, but they work hand in hand. But we put so much time into the drive, which is what we do, that we lose the fact that the confidence is who we are. Again, drive is what gets us there. Confidence is who we are when we arrive. And so I realized that, again, in order for me to bridge the gap, we've got to make a decision. It all starts there. In order to bridge this gap, we've got to be ready, and ready means we've got to make a decision. We have to be committed. Again, we've got to give ourselves permission and we've got to be willing. You got to be ready to make a decision, committed to giving yourself permission, and you've got to be willing again, to give up to go up. And I keep repeating that because it's so critical. Have you all noticed throughout this whole journey how critical these things are? So to build lasting confidence, we have to focus on what we are, not what we're not. Not what we're not. What we are. We can only be the best me. You can only be the best you. Stop the comparing, right, Denise? Stop the, "Well, they did this." And here is the thing, we've got to stop comparing ourself to ourself. Remember when you used to do this, Sheri? Well, that was your old norm. Accept your new norm. I love what Oscar Wilde says. "Be yourself, everyone is already taken." And then lastly, we have to have the courage to BE. We have to have the courage to BE. So I want you thinking about this. What are you going to do to build lasting confidence? What are you going to do to build lasting confidence?
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black;">Sheri Riley is a wife, mother, daughter, and entrepreneur and we all know this is not easy, but she has figured out how to make it simple. As a trendsetter in the entertainment industry, she spent 20 years creating innovative marketing strategies for some of the world’s biggest celebrities and corporations. This list includes Usher, TLC, Toni Braxton, Converse, NBA, TNT, and many more.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black;">Now, as an Empowerment Speaker, Life Strategist, and best-selling Author, she works with all around busy individuals, like us, to make choices that lead to less stress, better clarity, and a more fulfilling life. She speaks around the world, sharing her message of "<b><i>Peace is the New Success®”</i></b>.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black;">Her award-winning book, </span><a href="http://www.exponentialliving.com/"><b><span style="color: rgb(56, 110, 255);">Exponential Living</span></b></a><b><i><span style="color: black;">® - Stop Spending 100% of Your Time on 10% of Who You Are, </span></i></b><span style="color: black;">published by Penguin Random House, is a 2018 NAACP Image Award nominee and has won several Self Help Book of the Year awards.</span></p>
This course is fantastic! I had the opportunity to attend in person and I will tell you that Sheri is the real deal! An amazing, insightful and inspiring presence on stage and a very down to earth, humble and caring person when I had the chance to chat with her. I have no doubts that anyone watching will be a person human being for it. She utilizes so many great reflective exercises and questions that really forced me to think about what I want out of life and how I define my success in life. A big thank you to the Creative Live studios for putting this together and to Sheri for an amazing class!
This was an amazing class. I have the book and it was great to hear the author teach the principles and share all the nuggets of wisdom in this Master Class. Thank you for providing such wonderful, relevant content that truly is life-changing that causes people to pause and reflect and question what success looks like in their lives! Great class and highly recommended.
This class is one of the BEST classes that I've taken. I'm really excited about all of the great information that I am leaving with. Sheri's approach to teaching is refreshing. She is an engaging speaker who is passionate about her topic. She is very unselfish about sharing value gained from her years of experience and insight gained from working in the music industry. It wasn't just a list of actions to follow, so it was truly enriching. Anyone who is considering this class should know that it's a great investment of their time and money.