After the Negotiation
Vanessa Van Edwards
After the Negotiation
Vanessa Van Edwards
13. After the Negotiation
Class Introduction27:29 2
Before the Negotiation - Assess Your Assets13:58 3
Before the Negotiation - Diagnose Their Pain20:47 4
Before the Negotiation - Do Due Diligence17:42 5
Before the Negotiation - Interest Matchmaking10:08 6
Before the Negotiation - Prep Purposefully12:20 7
Before the Negotiation - Bring Aids17:27 8
During the Negotiation - Prime Value09:00
During the Negotiation - Ask, Ask, Ask21:37 10
During the Negotiation - Leverage Agreement14:42 11
During the Negotiation - Money Talk20:50 12
During the Negotiation - Money Chasers13:42 13
After the Negotiation04:31 14
Bonus Lesson - Email Negotiation07:14 15
Bonus Lesson - How to De-Escalate11:28 16
Bonus Lesson - Dealing with Deadlock08:56 17
Bonus - Case Study38:30 18
Bonus Q&A with Vanessa29:14
After the Negotiation
So at the end of your negotiation, there's a couple of things that I want you to do. One: everyone wins. A negotiation is usually the start of a relationship. Right, like this is how you anchor, how you're going to be set up for the rest of your relationship. By the way, an interesting story, is I got a "no." I was negotiating with a conference. They wanted to bring me in as a break out speaker and I offered a rate. They didn't like it. I was like "here's all the value I can provide, here are all the things, all the things here," and they still said no. But next year they came back and asked me to do the keynote because they had worked it into their budget for next year. So you don't know necessarily where negotiations are going. Sometimes a "no" is better than a "yes." Because if you work for what you're not worth, you work for less than what you're worth, you don't like the work, they're not appreciating it as much. Sometimes a "no" is actually a good thing. Ah, and don't antagonize.
So what I was going to say is whether you're a winner or a loser, try to make sure that they know that you enjoyed the negotiation process with them. In your workbook, I have a couple of ideas for you to end on a high. So you how you compliment after negotiation, some ideas for how you can end verbally. So, "it's great working with you on this," "I really feel like I got to know you and your company better." Right, so even after I got that "no," the conference, I said "hey, you know, your conference looks amazing. I wish you the best of luck with it. If you need recommendations for other speakers in your price range, I'm happy to offer them." That was an offer, I was happy with them, I did recommend other speakers for them, and so I think that helped with them bringing me back. So other compliments that you can give afterwards, some ideas for you. I also recommend sending videos, thanking them after the negotiation. And of course, summarizing quickly. When I get deal, when you get a deal, they say yes, you're good, I would not linger and rehash it. This is when you immediately want to go into, "okay, great, we did it, let's summarize quickly." A great summary: you summarize the agreements, you summarize the process. "It was great brainstorming with you. I learned a lot about your company and what I need to provide for you." Summarize the facts. You got, I got, we got, right? Very quickly, to make sure you're all on the same page. And then what happens next, right? So how is payment being taken care of, what's the next step, they're going to hire you or they're going to call you or you're going to call them. Summarize the next steps. And lastly, if it was a tough negotiation, if it kind of got heavy, mend fences, right? "You know, I know this was tough, I know we went really back and forth, but I am so happy with where we're at." Or, you know, "I know we couldn't find a deal, but I wish you the best of luck." So that also could be, that end. Obviously the more notes you take on your negotiation cheat sheet the better it is to do a summary because you can fill it in as you go. I personally like to do a quick verbal summary and then I like to follow up with a written summary and in that e-mail, I ask for confirmation. So I will almost always summarize everything I've put in this sheet and say, "Does this look right to you? Did I miss anything? Is all the points we've covered good?" It shows that you're conscientious. It also makes sure that you're not agreeing to something that maybe was misunderstood verbally. Post-Mortems: What did you learn, what were your successes, what could you have done better? On the back of my cheat sheet, normally, I will write down a couple of things that I learned, a couple of things that I would change. This cheat sheet has been modified, and modified, and modified to what it is today. Originally it was just assets and main points. Then I added research, then I added the yes ladder. So you might add your own section, and that's great. E-mail it to me, I would love to see what you add to it as you negotiate. So our summary, before we wrap up. Before a negotiation, you're assessing, you're prepping, you're making sure that you're researching and you're unbundling. Think of your big offers. How can you break them down into smaller pieces, into those BATNAs that will work. During, you're priming, you're agreeing, you're setting up the expectation. You're asking as much as possible. And then the moment you transition, you're offering that money chaser. Either proof, or safety, or both. And lastly, afterwards, you are both winning. Right? Offering those compliments, offering that follow-up. It's okay if you're waiting, cause in the waiting process you summarize, you revisit, you see this is really still a good fit. And hopefully you solidify any of that learning.
Ratings and Reviews
Vanessa is such a life changer. I feel so priveledged to have discovered all the wisdom that she shares. My dream is to be able to afford an in person training course with her. In the meantime, I watch the courses and purchasing them so that I can listen over and over. Wish my mom, who is now on life support would have been healthy and alert to have listened with me since my mother is my inspiration to seek how teachings from people like Vanessa. Mom, hoping that you know that I am continuing in your footsteps. Thank you Vanessa and hoping one day to learn from you in person.
What a valuable course! I appreciated Vanessa Van Edwards turning negotiation into a learnable skill. She lays out, step by step: * how to prepare for a negotiation, including a comprehensive worksheet, * what to say (and what not to say) during the negotiations, and * how to follow-up in the most effective manner. I learned skills applicable to complex work situations as well as getting my kids to do more chores. She teaches you how to turn an adversarial negotiation into a "partnership" which not just sounds good, but it is good and she gives you detailed, insightful guidance for how to do this. The 116 page workbook is crammed with practical insights. The 3 hour class and bonus materials are jam-packed with information I can use right now. So worth the investment.
This was the perfect course at the perfect time for me. I have a lot going on right now and I know these skills are going to help me out every step of the way. They are transferable to so many situations! I can't believe how much awesome stuff there is in the workbook. Every question I have is answered, and there are so many examples, it's insane! Everyone should do this course.