11. Avoidance Coping
Class Introduction05:11 2
The Unique Challenge of Being A Creator03:54 3
Overcoming Imposter Syndrome06:17 4
The Myths and Truths About Confidence02:19 5
How To Develop Self-Confidence03:05 6
The 5 Second Rule02:34 7
What is Self-Doubt?01:56 8
Self-Doubt, Anxiety & Creatives09:16
Self-Doubt Symptoms02:49 10
What Causes Hesitation03:27 11
Avoidance Coping03:12 12
Hypercritical Personality01:54 13
Overcoming Learned Helplessness01:25 14
The Connection Between Doubt, Worry, and Anxiety12:19 15
The 5 Habits of Building Self-Confidence11:52
All right. Next trap. Hiding right. Hiding hiding is when you shrink. This is that This one blows when you really see it, it really does. It's triggered by fear. I don't know what fear, but it's triggered by fear that if you were to step into your full potential and take on that new P and l A work or you were to step into your full potential and put your work out there, you were stepping your full potential and just share the idea that you have like that something is going to trigger. It's like that kid that's standing on the edge, you know, looking down, and it just the more you think about it, that and then you just want to shrink away. Hiding is when you avoid people and you avoid phone calls. So if you see if you have somebody that you need to talk to and you're hiding, you're avoiding them. If you have calls that you need to make and you're not making them because you're worried about how it's gonna go, this is hiding. What happens again is it's triggered by fear or self doubt or ...
insecurity, and then the action is to shrink. The action is to avoid for those of you that are silent. So you're in a relationship and you're not happy. You just shut up and put up. This is a form of hiding. It's triggered by self doubt. Um, being a chicken about money or terms, terms because terms are sticky in the creative business, the licensing and the rights and the this and that. And how much am I actually producing for you? And the other form of hiding is procrastinating because you are avoiding absolutely avoiding. I hope you're starting to see all of you that without playing the numbers game confidence is a numbers game. Your success is a numbers game. Um, do you know how many paintings Picasso painted in his lifetime? He had almost 100 masterpieces. Do you know how many paintings you painted in his lifetime? More than 50,000. Everybody that is in that is in the game of success is playing the numbers game. Okay, Dyson, You know the Dyson vacuum cleaners? They did almost 5000 prototypes for the 1st So if you want to improve, if you want Teoh, find the investors, you are literally go 100 conversations for one good one, particularly in that business, because you're dealing with so much ego and people are used to, you know, folks coming in and asking for money. So there is another bias that's out there, which is I hear the say, I hear a lot all the time, and so you've got to bring something special the table, so just keep trying and you'll find it's a numbers game.
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Looking to build some more confidence and push through the imposter feeling I have trying to sell myself as a self taught artist. Happy to say I use the 54321 rule a lot and I didn’t know it. I call it my what have I got to loose rule. I also learned some new techniques and good “habits” to keep my day on track and prepare myself against any fear or anxiety I may encounter when powering through my day. A great motivator, Mel keeps it simple with advice and tips backed by proven scientific research . Highly recommend this
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