Are You Listening
Lesson 12 from: Don't Get Pushed Around: An Introvert's Guide to Getting What You Need at WorkIlise Benun
Are You Listening
Lesson 12 from: Don't Get Pushed Around: An Introvert's Guide to Getting What You Need at WorkIlise Benun
Lessons
Introduction to Workshop
06:08 2How to Develop the Confidence to Ask For What You Need
10:07 3Defining Confidence
06:31 4When do You Need Confidence
12:57 5Your Confidence Meter
05:19 6Getting to Know Yourself
04:47 7Doing Shy
09:03 8When Fear Gets in the Way
09:29What do You Need at Work
02:28 10Getting to Know Everyone Else
07:13 11Learn to Read People
04:06 12Are You Listening
02:42 13Skills for Networking
06:18 14Tools for Connecting
07:11 15Getting In and Out of Conversations
06:30 16Skills for In Person Meetings
06:14 17Presenting Your Work
06:03 18Playing Other Roles
05:17 19Skills for Virtual Meetings
04:54 20Effective Communication Tools
03:11 21When to Write
06:05 22When to Call or Text
03:22 23When an Introvert Has to be a Salesperson
07:11 24Boast-free Self Promotion
03:24 25Skills & Strategies for Self Employed Introverts: Marketing Yourself
07:02 26Call to Action
04:31Lesson Info
Are You Listening
And now just a little bit about listening. And my questions really is are you listening? And what are you listening to? Because as I've said, if you're quiet, you may be busy listening to stuff in your head, and that's not gonna help you very much. So, you could be listening to what's happening out in the world, what's happening in the people that you're talking to, and then, can you distinguish between what you imagine is happening, which is based on what's in your head, or what's actually happening in the world. And that's something, I think, that takes getting used to because it's all in your head, but did I imagine it? Or is it actually happening? And that's, again, when a question can come in handy when you interact with a person and say, I keep thinking this, is this what's really happening? And they can say, oh no, are you kidding? That has nothing to do with you, or no. They can dismiss it or they can say yes, as a matter of fact, this is something we should talk about. So agai...
n, kind of don't give in to the laziness of, oh, I think I know what's going on, when it's especially something that you're imagining. So a few listening strategies that I want to share. And these are kind of obvious, but really hard to do. And I'm not talking here about gestures of listening that make it seem like you're listening, like looking someone in the eye because I could be very easily looking you in the eye and totally not listening to you, right? Or nodding my head and not listening. So do those things if they're genuine, if they're real, but really what you have to do is be open, which is easier said than done, and you have to be focused, right, so don't allow yourself to be distracted by things that are happening or, again, things in your head. You have to be active and listen to every single word that someone says. Don't rush to get the understanding and don't rehearse what you think you're gonna say next. Don't interrupt. This is actually not easy at all because we have things that come up and we want to say them, but you have to wait until the other person is finished. Don't talk to yourself and rehearse your response. And what you can do in your listening is listen for the questions you can ask. Alright, so be listening for things you don't understand and then ask questions accordingly.
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Ratings and Reviews
Susan
It was interesting to learn from your program what experiences other people have in certain situations and how similar or different they are to mine. And that’s it’s ok to “own” your inner introvert, and to work with it instead of against it. The good thing is, the more self-aware we become, the more aware and sensitive we can be towards others, thanks to shared knowledge and programs like yours. So thank you Ilise, for an enlightening program. I look forward to going back over it sometime.
Simone
Was a great overall course with lots of tips and ways to frame in your mind what may be happening rather than making assumptions. I would have liked a deeper dive into dealing with conflict, people who just don't think and operate the same way, and getting what you need in situations where usual methods aren't working. Perhaps an additional course on that. Thanks
Simone
Was a great overall course with lots of tips and ways to frame in your mind what may be happening rather than making assumptions. I would have liked a deeper dive into dealing with conflict, people who just don't think and operate the same way, and getting what you need in situations where usual methods aren't working. Perhaps an additional course on that. Thanks
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